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I Want A Baby To Come Out Of My Vagina: The Birth Plan Part 2

March 21st, 2009 · Interview 2 Inspire, Latina, Monday Momisms, Parenthood, Taking Twitter To The Next Level, VBAC Series

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I am now officially in the home stretch.  I don’t know how everyone else defines the home stretch but for me it starts when I have to start going to my midwife every two weeks.  All of a sudden there’s no way I can lose sight of how close my “due” date is and it’s consuming just about every thought.  I had an appointment on Tuesday and next week I will be scheduling our hospital visit along with our natural childbirth class at our local maternity store.  After thinking about, avoiding and then obsessing over my birth plan, I’ve written it down, signed it and have it ready to go.

My preferences don’t differ that much from last time.  The main difference is that I am not as laid back about the possibility of using pain medication.  With my first birth plan, I stated that I wanted to try and have a natural birth but would not rule out the use of an epidural.  I also did not make certain that the important players (aside from my husband and doctor) had read it.  So the language is more definite and DH will be making sure before we interact with anyone that they’re clear on our plan.  With Dessa, I read this book which was very, very helpful – almost a birth education class and a guide to creating a birth plan all in one.  This time around I read Ricki Lake and Abby Epstein’s book and it was an appropriate refresher – not as detailed as the first book but just enough.

As I was writing this birth plan, I realized I wasn’t as into it as I was the first time around.  I think what’s happened is that I’m not empowering my birth plan like I did last time.  I’m empowering myself.  With my first pregnancy, I believed my birth plan was my cheerleader, my bodyguard, my advocate.  I truly believed everyone read it.  I trusted it too much.  I somehow convinced myself it had some kind of power.  This time around I realize it’s just a piece of paper.  My husband and my midwife and I are on the same page.  We will work as a team to make my labor what I want it to be.  My heart isn’t in the birth plan like it was the last time.  My head is writing it.

So without further ado (insert drumroll):

The following items are my preferences for my labor.  Should any complications arise which threaten the health of me or my baby, then at that time I am open to discussing the options available to me to make an informed decision.

Goal: Labor naturally and birth my baby vaginally without medical interventions.

Pain Management: I plan to use a combination of self-hypnosis (Hypnobabies), deep breathing, accupressure and a variety of laboring positions.  I do not wish to have an epidural.  Please do not offer one to me. If I make the decision to opt for anesthetic pain management, I will request it.

Labor Support: I would like my husband to stay with me at all times.  No interns/apprentices, or others in training, should enter the birth room without explicit permission.  We reserve the right to ask anyone out of the room at any time.

Labor Room: If available I’d like a room with access to a shower and/or whirlpool to assist in managing labor discomfort.  I would like the lights dimmed and request anyone who needs to speak to me to use a soft voice.  If I am in the middle of a birthing wave, please be patient while I manage my discomfort.  When the birthing wave is over, then I will be able to address your questions.

IVs: I understand because I am working towards a vaginal birth after a c-section an IV line must be inserted.  I’d like to request a Hep-Lock.  I’d like to only use an IV if a medical emergency requires it (dehydration or administration of medicine).  I will bring my own fluids and nourishment.

EFM: I am aware of the hospital policy for VBAC patients which requires EFM.  I wish to move about as much as possible despite the need for an EFM.

Breastfeeding: I will exclusively breastfeed my baby.  Please do not offer any formula or pacifiers to my baby.
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THINGS I WISH TO INCLUDE DURING MY LABOR
My own clothing
Vaginal exams only as needed
Pushing naturally as my body directs
Ample time to push my baby out (if baby & mom are healthy and progress is being made, then I do not want a time limit set on my pushing)
Warm compresses or massage to the perineum as needed
Husband to cut the cord once it has stopped pulsating
Immediately place baby on my chest once born
Ample time to bond with baby (delay regular tests until we have had time to bond)

Things I’d like to AVOID During Labor

Induction
Epidural
Lying on my back
Use of stirrups
Direction on breathing or pushing
Episiotomy
Separation from baby (if necessary, then my husband will accompany the baby)
Use of forceps or vacuum extraction

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In the event a decision about a medical procedure must be made while I am unconscious or incoherent, I grant authority for making that decision to my husband.
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My husband and I are fully aware childbirth can present many unexpected situations.  This plan is how we envision our baby’s ideal birth as long as neither my baby’s nor my health is in jeopardy.  However, if a situation should require us to veer from this plan, we’d like the opportunity to discuss the options, along with the risks and benefits assosciated with each, available to us in order to make a fully informed decision.
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The plan for posting my birth plan was to include a nifty PDF doc, however, my technical skills are lacking so a cut and paste you get.  It needs a bit of tweaking to get it down to one page but this is the overall idea we’re trying to get across.  Like I mentioned before, the books I read really helped guide me through the process of what to include and what to leave out.  If you’d prefer something a bit simpler, I know the Earth Mama Angel Baby website has a birth plan generator anyone can use.  I haven’t tried it but it just asks you to click those things you wish to include.
I’m relieved to have completed this but am also now furiously working on a personal plan of sorts to be prepared for labor day.  Not just about the actual labor but having our home well stocked and clean, having all the necessities for the baby and preparing Dessa for her new sibling.  With my first pregnancy, I had great plans of being prepared but didn’t really feel the urgency.  Now with one daughter and another on the way, I know how important being organized and prepared is going to be to making a smoother transition to a family of four.
Here’s the loose plan I have laid out in my mind:
-Go food shopping & stock our kitchen to the brim
-Stock fridge with premade meals
-Hardcore house cleaning
-Organize the corners of our home we’ve been meaning to organize for two years
-Solidify our plan for childcare in the event I go into labor in the middle of the night (need to write detailed childcare notes)
-Install car seats & take them to our local maternity store to confirm they’re installed properly (how cool are they for being certified?)
Considering how poorly my brain functions when I’m pregnant, I welcome any suggestions for preparing my family and my home for this second birth.  Is there anything you did before you gave birth which you found to be a tremendous help after the birth of your baby?  Let me know in the comments!

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My Everyday Treasure

March 15th, 2009 · What's New

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I just got home from a fun filled day of lunch and the children’s museum with old college girlfriends and their kids.  I should rephrase that because these ladies were my bestest friends in college; the kind of friends whose lives I’ll always follow, even if just from a distance, and whose voices and stories I’ll never tire of hearing.  I came home and Dessa was beyond exhausted from all the fun she had.  While I was nursing her to sleep, I got so overwhelmed with how sweet a day it was I cried.

We live a lucky life where childcare isn’t a necessity.  We live in a condo without many little kids in it.  We have lots of cousins nearby but either we’re not close to them or they’re in their teens or beyond.  So Dessa spends a lot of time with adults.  She goes to swimming once a week and we have a toddler tumbling class once a week where she sees other kids her age.  However, nothing beats having her together with other kids for no reason other than so their moms can hang out.

She lit up when she saw the other kids.  She was amazed and completely entertained by them.  And the oldest, a sweet girl who I held the same day she was born 5 and a half years ago, was so gentle with Dessa and guided her everywhere.  Dessa was in heaven.  It’s something I don’t often get to witness and really that she doesn’t often get to do.

After lunch we went to the children’s museum and it was just Dessa and my friend’s son.  It is amazing how quickly and how sincerely children become attached to others.  There’s no game playing or guessing; they like you or they don’t.  They want to follow your every move or you just don’t matter.  Dessa was enthralled with my friend’s son.  She ran around calling for him whenever he was out of sight.  It was the sweetest of sweets.

After I nursed her to bed and cried a bit more, I realized how these are the quiet days before our lives change forever.  The last days of Dessa being the center of our lives, of being an only child.  I realized how precious today and the next several weeks will be.  I want to capture it and save it and never forget how amazing it has been to be her parent.  To shower her with everything we have, to take in her every breath and witness her becoming who she is.  As fate would have it, I paid a visit to Simple Mom who led me to a daily blog favorite of mine.  The post I linked to spoke to everything I’d just been feeling – needing urgently to capture a small, minute moment of a blessing so that one day I can remember it and treasure it and share it.

I’m so weepy tonight.  I realize so much is about to change and I wonder and worry that I’ll lose a part of Dessa I never got to know.  It’s a silly worry really because our lives are as they should be and that life is one where we grow our family by one this Spring.  But I can’t help but be a bit sad to lose the time I have with Dessa as I know it.  Our new little one is going to be a joy and to watch Dessa and her sister together is going to be something of a magnitude I cannot even fathom.  I seriously think my heart might burst and I might run out of joyous tears.

Today was a great little treasure of a day.  I’m going to hold it very, very tight to my heart.  One day I’ll share it with Dessa and I dare hope with the other children who were there.

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I Hate Maternity Leave

March 12th, 2009 · Parenthood

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I’m 31 weeks now and nearing my time to leave work.  While I should be really excited to have the entire summer off with my girls, lately I’ve been a little down and out about it.  See I’m one of those moms who LOVES maternity leave.  I’m in no rush to get back to the office or grown up interaction or routine.  I love more than anything spending time with my babies.

The reason I get to upset over my maternity leave is because it has to come to an end.  During my maternity leave with Dessa, I discovered the mother in me.  Thanks to 3 months off from work I was able to really pay attention to and learn how to respond to her needs.  I discovered a patience I didn’t know I was capable of.  I gained an amazing amount of confidence in my skills as a mom.

Going back to work when Dessa was just 3 months old was no easy task but as is my nature I sucked it up and did what had to be done.  Not a second still goes by now that I don’t wish I were home.  However, now that I’ll be home with two little ones and eventually have to leave them to return to work, I’m dreading the whole maternity leave/work situation more than anything.

I think it’s such a cruel joke to play on a new mother – here take some time off, have a little taste of how great life could be if you could focus on your family, enjoy a bit of disillusionment of what parenting is really like.  Then – WHAM – go back to work and try to figure it all out again from scratch with eight less hours in your day to focus on your family.

I have been marveling lately at how mothers do it who have more than one child and are able to work full time outside the home.  I know it’s totally feasible but I don’t know if my heart will be in it after two.  And by that I mean if my heart will be able to go through the everyday motions to get back to work knowing my two babies are home without me.

Don’t get me wrong.  I am fortunate to have a great job that allows my family the flexibility to eliminate the need for childcare.  And I am completely aware of the the hardships many are going through during these tough economic times so just bear with my whining.  At the end of the day my issue is I still think my place is with my family.  I know I’m getting ahead of myself and should probably worry about these things after I actually have a baby but it’s been weighing heavy on my mind.

If you have more than one little one at home and you work outside of the home, I’d love to know how you do it.  It’s just so tough for me to wrap my brain around it.  And heck, even if you work at home I know it must be challenging so I guess I’m asking for any kind of insight from a working mom with two or more babes in her life.

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Getting To BlogHer ’09

March 10th, 2009 · Blogging

When I became a blogger way back when, I did it not with hopes of becoming filthy, stinking rich or gaining any kind of celebrity.  I admired the discussions and community women had built simply by sharing a bit about their lives, their opinions and their dreams.  For a long time I wrote not really knowing if anyone was reading (it took forever for me to get on the stat tracking train) so I measured my “success” via the number of comments.  I’d get elated over one comment (I still do).  However, I finally felt like I’d reached some level of community on my blog when these posts generated not only great comments but fired up an interesting and friendly debate on Twitter.  It is the kind of connection I had always hoped to build on my blog.

Small moments like those really encourage me to keep on blogging.  Another source of inspiration is the vast number of blogs I learn from everyday.  I’m not just talking about random facts or geography and history facts but useful, help my family out kind of facts.  Take for instance the parenting, product review, and consumer advocacy and research blog Z Recommends which was a reference tool for me to figure out what kinds of bottles and sippy cups to get Dessa.  It may not seem like much but it made a world of difference and gave us great peace of mind that there was one location online that we could go to to figure this stuff out.

Thanks to Z Recommends and the parents’ giveaway and sweepstakes hub PRIZEY, I may get a chance to take my blogging to the next level and go to this year’s BlogHer conference in Chicago IL.  They are offering one lucky reader a free pass to the weekend event.  Having been at this blogging business for over a year, I really believe it’s time I stepped up my game and went to a conference where I can meet and mingle with the folks I admire from my little computer screen.  I’m not only excited to meet other bloggers but also learn so that I can continue to grow my little piece of the blogosphere and generate more great conversations.  I think it would be an amazing experience and give me a wonder opportunity to really fuel myself to make the most of Mama Hearts Baby.  If you’d like to learn more on how to enter to win a ticket to BlogHer ’09, visit this post for all the details.

I’ve admired the blogging conferences from a variety of different blogs I read.  While I admit some seem a bit overwhelming, BlogHer has always been at the top of my list.  Between their great sessions and their flexible learning opportunities throughout the event, there’s a lot of value to gain from attending.  Not to mention that it seems to have a varied audience in terms of not just focusing on a specific type of blogger (mommy bloggers, personal finance bloggers, social media bloggers, etc.); it reaches out to everyone and has speakers that cover just about everything.  I thought about going last year but as a first time mom, I felt overwhelmed and I threw the idea into my list of wishful thinking for another life.  This year, however, there’s no holding back; there’s no time like the present.  I’m going to try my darndest to get myself to BlogHer ’09.  I’ve applied for sponsorship from one company  and this contest is my second attempt at getting to Chicago this summer.  So cross your fingers that this mama makes it to the windy city this June!

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I Want a Baby to Come Out of My Vagina: The Birth Plan Part 1

March 4th, 2009 · VBAC Series

 I Want a Baby to Come Out of My Vagina: The Birth Plan Part 1

I freaked out a bit the other day because I received my lovely Baby Center email which kindly reminded me that I am officially 29 weeks pregnant (30 tomorrow).  Translation – I could go at any time.  I know I’m just overreacting a bit but time has flown and it all seems to have crept up on me.

I am still doing the Hypnobabies self-study which I am really enjoying; it’s been really calming and put me in a great state of mind – relaxed and very positive.   I’ll update soon on the classes we’ve taken so far.  Right now, though, I’m focusing on completing my birth plan.  I pulled out the binder I created for my first labor and reviewed the birth plan which states pretty much the same preferences I have for this labor.  In reviewing it, I realize my birth plan was very clear cut and expressed my wishes  clearly.  The two big differences, though, will not be in my birth plan but in how I and my husband advocate for my labor preferences and how long we stay home.

I had a visit with my midwife today and we had a great discussion about my birth plan.  I was reassured by our chat that I made the right decision in choosing her to attend my birth.  I feel supported and understood.  She encourages my desire to stay home as long as possible and reassured me she would advocate for me and my wish to have a natural, unmedicated birth.  With a solid discussion about birth plan done, I’m going to focus tonight and tomorrow on writing it up.

Aside from my birth plan, I’m also creating a list of things I want around me and things I want to do during labor to encourage a natural birth.  Having not ever actually had a vaginal birth, I can guess some of the things that might be helpful but guessing won’t do me much good.  Instead, I reached out to moms on Twitter who have had successful natural, unmedicated births.  I asked them to share their best tips for having a vaginal birth sans meds.  These ladies offered up a wealth of information and I’m super grateful that they were willing to share their wisdom with me.  So in case you were looking for some natural birth tips here are some from the ladies who have been there, done that:

  • @BellaNicki Best chance for a natural unmedicated birth in my mind is *stay home!* That’s what worked for me.
  • @KatjaPresnal And things that helped: rocking chair and bath tub. After our 1st baby I said I wouldn’t have another baby without a rocking chair (they had one at the hospital).
  • @bellanikelly for me, i just don’t think about medications as an option
  • @Blacktating Slow, deep cleansing breaths, “ride the wave” of each contraction, affirmations “no contraction is stronger than me!” If you believe you can do it, you can. It’s all about attitude. Stay home as long as possible, too.
  • @annemartens Not yet but planning one for early June. Reading Ina May. Ignoring naysayers. http://bit.ly/xc0eJ and http://bit.ly/ZWoDP
  • @phdinparenting I had a natural, unmedicated birth & posted tips/thoughts [on my blog]
  • @HomeschoolCoach I had two natural births! 1st had doula & 2nd had midwife. Learn about positions, counter pressure, squeezing hips together. Also loved the spa tub & the shower.
  • @staceyreck was kind enough to email me her thoughts-
  • -Take the time EVERYDAY to visualize your desired outcome: An easy, painless delivery -see how easy it is and feel how happy you are after. There are lots of places on the web to learn visualization. It need not be elaborate or difficult. Close your eyes and take a few relaxing breaths – see yourself going into labor and FEEL how relaxed you are and remain- then see the actual delivery, the baby is easily delivered through the birth canal with minimal effort- the last step is always seeing the reward- see how happy you are after the birth holding your bundle of joy.
    - Learn to use breath to relax -again look for reliable web sites that can teach this technique-practice 2 times a day. Much of the pain women feel during labor is due to fear and tension. Learning to relax is the key to an easy delivery.
    -Bring an ipod with good relaxing music-make sure it is music you like, that YOU consider relaxing. It’s a good idea to use the music before hand during the above exercises.

Thank you again ladies for sharing these wonderful tips.  I am feeling much more empowered and well armed for this birth than the first.  I’m taking each of your recommendations to heart and will most likely integrate almost all of them into my time at home.  Stay tuned, I’m finishing up my birth plan and my personal list of preferences; I’ll post them later this week.

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Daddy’s Little Girl

March 3rd, 2009 · Parenthood

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I always knew I wanted children but I was never clear what my journey there would be like.  In my teens and early twenties, I believed I’d live a fun and exciting life and hit 30 single and alone.  I had settled in my mind to make 30 my breaking point and if there was no man in my life, I’d wrangle a good guy friend into bed or adopt my own little baby.  I was naive and a. was terribly mistaken to think 30 was “late in life” and b. had completely over-glamorized single motherhood (coupled parenthood isn’t that glamorous, fun and wonderful but certainly there’s no glamour involved).

I got lucky to meet Jeremy in college and fall in love with a man who had as strong a desire as I did to have children.  We knew the second we were hitched it was baby making time for us and our daughter was born just in time to celebrate our first wedding anniversary.  When I was pregnant, I freaked about the possibility of having a boy.  I knew that boy or girl we’d be happy and excited but I was nervous because I’m a girl’s girl and know zilch about raising boys.  I even confided in my hubby to dreading that I might turn a little boy gay (I know we’re born how we’re born but I was convinced my girlish ways could make a kid pull a switcheroo…just leave it to pregnancy hormones diluting my intelligence).

I discovered during my pregnancy that my husband was not a macho type guy who was determined to get a mini-me.  He was overjoyed that we were having a daughter and admitted he was hoping it would be a girl.

Reading this post from a fellow Cubana made me realize how lucky I am to witness my husband and daughter together.  I don’t know what it’s like to watch a man with his son but a man and his daughter is just something words cannot describe.  As a father to a little girl, I am seeing traits in my husband I had not known before.  We’re pregnant now with daughter number two and he couldn’t be happier.  Sure he’s the outdoorsy, camping type who loves to play with cars and rough house with his brother and explain scientific things that bore me to pieces but he could care less if we ever have a boy.

I’m not ruling out a go for number 3 or suggesting a boy would ever disappoint us but I’m just beaming over what a wonderful experience it is to be a woman and watch my husband be an incredible father to our daughter.  He is for her all the things my abuelo, the male figure in my life,  is to me – strong yet gentle, funny, full of knowledge, loving, adventurous, devoted.  Me and my daughters are a lucky, lucky bunch to have gotten Jeremy all to ourselves.  Lucky indeed.

Thanks, Carrie, for reminding me to be so grateful.

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Happy, Shiny Green People

March 1st, 2009 · Green Living

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When my daughter was born I jumped on the green bandwagon.  My head went spinning at the sight of bleach and non-organic foods.  I balked at the idea of paraben & SLS rich lotions and body washes.  I dumped every cleaning product I’d come to know and love and stocked up on baking soda, vinegar and Borax.  Whole Foods and I became very fast friends.  I shelled out the extra cash for the Seventh Generation diapers.  I did it all.
A year and a half later, we’re still going strong on the green track.  I’m glad I took the extreme actions I took in the beginning because now I don’t actually have to do much but maintain what was already established.  On a daily basis I am grateful for going green when my daughter was a newborn.  Here are my top 5 daily reminders of why I’m glad we’ve gone green:
1. She loves to wash dishes.  I don’t have to worry that the dish detergent is too strong for her gentle skin.
2. She cleans the house with me.  I have peace of mind when I spray the all purpose cleaner that won’t suffocate her with terrible fumes.
3. We spend almost all of our time rolling around our carpeted condo.  The Dyson with the hepa filter was the next best thing to actually removing the entire carpet.  We can breathe easy now.
4. Bath time is more like an extended play time.  She could be in there for hours.  We swear by California Baby and I’m glad I never have to worry about what is going onto her skin.
5. She loves to lick, kiss and nibble on my cheeks.  I’m glad I made the decision to choose green products for myself.  I don’t have to worry that my wrinkle cream is poisoning her!
We’re not entirely perfect in terms of being green – we drive one SUV, we’re awful at recycling, we don’t buy local food as much as we want and we’re awful at conserving energy in our home.  I didn’t set out to be the biggest and most bad ass green mama so I’m happy with the changes we’ve made.  We continue to find new ways to green our lives everyday; it’s a learning process.  But at least now we’re on the right track =)
Do you have any green products you swear by?  Or helpful tips for living green?

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I2I: Tailored Tadpole

February 24th, 2009 · Interview 2 Inspire

Welcome to the Interviews to Inspire (I2I) series on MamaHeartsBaby. I, like so many social media mommies, have a vision of the personal and professional life I want for myself.  It includes being a WAHM and using social media to make that happen.  I’ve got a whole lot to learn so I’ll be approaching women in social media that inspire me.  I’ll be sharing my interviews with them here because that’s what social media is all about – connecting people and sharing knowledge.  Hope this inspires you!

Today’s Interview to Inspire is with Linde Balderas who owns and operates a great children’s company, Tailored Tadpole.  Now you’re saying to yourself, how does Linde fall into the category of social media?  Well, it’s how we found one another that involves social media.  Both Linde and myself signed up for The Mogul Mom Helping Out Directory.  We each used social media to meet the needs of our business. 

Linde is passionate about the work she does and strives with every collection to keep improving her brand and stay true to her commitment to “use comfortable, luxurious materials that are modern and fun, colorful and unique”.   A look at her most recent work is a great display of clothes kids can feel comfortable playing in for hours and still look fashionable.  Her collection also includes an amazing selection of elegant accessories every parent can proudly tote around.

Read on to learn more about Linde and what it takes to run  your own business.

With your Spring 2009 line, you are releasing ECO which introduces earth friendly fibers to your collection.  How else is Tailored Tadpole earth friendly?
Yes, I am so proud of this line. It features GOTS certified Organic cottons, bamboo, soy, and hemp materials. We also try to use natural dyes whenever possible and the bodysuits have nickel-free snaps. I think it is important to keep harmful chemicals and pesticides out of the ground and the environment whenever possible. Using these kinds of fabrics contributes to this effort. Tailored Tadpole uses recycled shipping containers when we ship our wholesale orders, and we use minimal packaging. We print a very limited number of catalogs, offering it online, to avoid paper consumption. I am also a huge recycling fanatic, so this is something I continue to practice with the business as well as in my home. We have several favorite charities and make several donations per year. I really enjoy giving back.

Your entire line is produced in the United States.  Was it a hard business decision to manufacture in the US when prices overseas tend to be so much cheaper?
Yes and no. The cost of production overseas is staggeringly more economical. So in this regard, it was difficult. Keeping costs down and offering my line at reasonable prices is definitely a challenge. However, as a designer, I like having the hands-on access that producing here allows me. It has always been a dream of mine, since my college days, to start a women’s co-op in a developing country and be able to help people by providing funds for education, healthcare, potable water, etc. through employment and fair trade. I suppose, in a way, that is what I have done here at home. Paying a living wage to talented women who need to supplement the family’s income by working part-time, and in some cases, are the only source of income for the family. So on this level, I am very proud of our domestic production even if it means paying more for manufacturing.

Your work is inspired by your own two children; do they have any favorite pieces from Mommy’s collection?
My son, Soren, is 15 months old and still likes to sleep swaddled. He has a closet full of Ultimate Baby Blankets and lies very still to be wrapped in one when it is time for “night night.” I can’t wait until it warms up to put the Zoom Romper on him! Marina, almost four, loves the Maddie Twirl Skirt and organic tank. She took gymnastic classes last semester and wore a lounge set to every class. She looked adorable and was comfortable too.

Many small business owners in the children’s market are concerned about the CPSIA law. What are your thoughts on the law? 
Ahh, yes. Like many in the industry, we were thrown for a loop by this new legislation because of the very short-notice nature of it and the high costs of the testing required. I am very much in favor of keeping lead out of the hands and mouths of our children, but the law needed some serious revision to avoid putting a lot of designers and home crafters out of business. Many of us use materials, most textiles for example, that do not contain any traces of lead. Exemptions have now been issued for some of these materials, although every product manufactured and intended for a child must comply with the lead and phthalate allowable limits. We have been working very hard to make sure that all of our components comply, and they do. So sourcing may become a bit more difficult and there is definitely an added expense now, when testing must be done, but Tailored Tadpole lives to see another day.

What does a typical day look like for a children’s wear designer?
I can’t speak for most, but for me it is a walk on the balance beam of mom/business woman. Some days it seems I just grab seconds here and there to work. Other days I can devote the time I need to the endless work at hand. It is not unusual for me to turn around and have baskets of ribbon, threads, labels, or fabric swatches spread all over my studio by the curious hands of my little ones. When I feel grouchy with them for making more work for me, I remind myself that they are my reason for having this business. Marina will frequently ask if I have a job she can do. She likes to help me, but still wants to be a “chef, like Papi.”

Now that you’ve gone through the experience of developing and creating your own children’s clothing line, what advice would you give to someone thinking about doing the same?
I believe in pursuing what you are passionate about. Life is too short to spend every day doing something you dislike. So if you love this business, make it happen. It has been a great learning experience for me, and I continue to learn every day. You’ll need a good, strong business plan, more money than you think you will, the advice of someone who’s been there, a good accountant, and a good support system. And, if you are really lucky, you’ll have some background in business, marketing, design, retail, and fashion. I had none of these. Well, I had a support system to beat them all, but the rest I learned by asking questions, making mistakes, and good old fashion research. Good customer service is essential and quality is of utmost importance in sustaining a brand.

If you were allowed to wear only one color for the rest of your life, what color would it be?
I know it sounds cliche, but I guess it would be black. It looks good on my skin tone and the accessory options are endless against black. I love a chunky necklace and a great pair of colored heels.

How does Tailored Tadpole today, compare to the Tailored Tadpole of 2005 when you first started?  What can we expect in the future?
They are not recognizable as the same company. I made my first baby blanket myself, with newborn Marina wrapped on my chest in a Moby Wrap. It sold on ebay for $5! Now I have personal relationships with many repeat clients, boutiques, moms, gift-givers who love our products and I treasure this. We are now featured in boutiques in Australia, Canada, and across the United States. I hope to continue to learn, grow, and expand. I look forward to steering us more toward simple, modern design, and want to incorporate more eco friendly fabrics in future lines. I am thinking about tween designs as well. We never know what the future holds!

What’s the best way to get stains out of our children’s favorite outfits?
I have a friend who is a chemical genius. He told me about SUN. It comes in a tub like oxy clean, but works wonders on stains. I soak the garment in SUN, then wash it and lay it out to dry in the sunlight. I was amazed to see that sunshine actually removes stains too. (Does wonders on breast milk poopies.) Voila!

Be sure to follow Linde on Twitter for exciting updates on her collection and visit her site for the latest in modern tot fashion!

Thank you, Linde!

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Monday Momisms

February 23rd, 2009 · Monday Momisms

Moms are full of wisdom; I’m a mom so I must have tons of wise and insightful things to share.  One day I hope to be able to share all my sage knowledge with my kids.  If I were more organized, I’d keep a beautifully bound journal and jot down in elegant fancy script all my deep teachings about life.  Then I would hand down to them from my death bed.  However, I plan to live forever and I’m not that organized.  Enter: Monday Momisms.

On Monday Momisms I share my bits of life advice for my kids.  I’d love to have you join me!  I’ll post every Monday in the morning and then you can link to your own Monday Momism post or leave a momism in the comments below.

Today’s Momsims-

  • Be nice to your parents and remember we were young and cool once.  Really, we were.
  • Give hot yoga a try.  It’s life altering.
  • Spend as much time outdoors as possible.

What’s your Monday Momism?

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Giveaway! He’s Just Not That Into You

February 19th, 2009 · Giveaway

He's Just Not That Into You Cover

GIVEAWAY CLOSED

My first soundtrack obsession was Dirty Dancing; I bought the cassette and played it until it couldn’t be played anymore.  Since then I’ve become a lover of movie soundtracks.  They’re amazing compilations of old and new, fresh and classic.  They’re not all great so I’m picky about my soundtracks.  When I received a copy of the He’s Just Not That Into You soundtrak to review, I took my time to listen to it several times and I really loving it.

It’s got a great variety of artists – R.E.M., Maroon 5, Lily Allen, Corinne Bailey Rae and even some Scarlett Johansson.  It’s one of those great soundtracks that’s perfect for cruising down to the beach, windows open and music blaring.

Are you ready to add this awesome soundtrack to your collection?  Do you think it’s too chilly to be thinking about summer yet?  Well, you’re in luck!  You can enter to win a copy of the He’s Just Not That Into You Soundtrack and a comfy sweatshirt to keep you warm until you can play your soundtrack on the way to the beach.

He's Just Not That Into You Hoodie

To enter a chance to win, enter a comment on this post letting us know your best dating advice.  You have until Sunday February 22nd at midnight to enter.  A winner will be selected at Random and announced Monday February 23rd.

GIVEAWAY WINNER!

Thanks to all the lovely ladies who shared their dating wisdom!  I used Random.org to generate a random list from the total number of entrants in the event the initial winner could not be counted.  Here are the results:

List Randomizer

There were 7 items in your list. Here they are in random order:

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  7. 7

Timestamp: 2009-02-23 13:31:53 UTC

So Monica you’re our winner! 

This is just the first in many giveaways to come so stay tuned.

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